Pricey Amy: I’m a 23-year-old private coach. I’m good wanting and muscular, and get hit on by older females.
I used to be seeing a 38-year-old; she is in a long-term relationship, however her man wasn’t satisfying her, and we had been hooking up three or 4 occasions per week.
We went on a three-day bicycle journey final summer time, and I received her pregnant with twins. (She forgot her contraception.)
Her man is aware of the entire story and is prepared to lift the infants and make me their godparent. I’m glad he’s prepared to try this.
I’m presently seeing a 34-year-old lovely, attractive, divorced woman, and we simply discovered I received her pregnant.
I don’t know if I ought to supply to marry her, however I’m desirous about it.
Your recommendation?
– Tempting Coach
Pricey Coach: For somebody whose skilled experience issues the human physique, you don’t appear to respect the longer-term ramifications of your fertility.
On the ripe outdated age of 23, and over the course of only a few months, you at the moment are the potential organic father of (no less than) three youngsters.
It’s important that you simply grasp the fundamentals of contraception, in addition to the authorized, monetary, and emotional repercussions and duties of fathering youngsters.
You might be clearly catnip for cougar kittens, and – given how cavalier you might be about providing up your muscular DNA for procreating – you don’t appear mature sufficient to turn out to be a father or a husband.
Should you or your present or future sexual companions don’t need to increase youngsters, all the time use a condom. All the time. The truth is, you may need to double up.
Get examined for STDs, and urge your sexual companions to do the identical.
When it comes to you providing to marry your girlfriend, I’ll put it this fashion: If she had been writing to me, I might advise her to not turn out to be matrimonially entangled with you.
It’s nice that she is attractive and attractive, however you don’t point out loving – and even liking – her.
Pricey Amy: I undergo from main despair and social anxiousness.
I’ve moved to a brand new state and am slowly making pals. I stay alone in a studio house, earn a living from home, and I’m fighting emotions of loneliness.
I need to get a pet companion however I’m having a tough time deciding between a cat or a canine.
I like each cats and canines equally.
I feel a canine would be the most useful for me as a result of I battle with going exterior and getting common train.
I’m additionally introverted, so I’m hoping every day walks will assist me meet new dog-loving pals. Nevertheless, I’m not skilled and I’m very a lot a low-energy homebody.
I’m apprehensive that having a cat will preserve me in the identical cycle of laziness as all the time.
I’m questioning whether it is OK to get a canine so as to assist me to turn out to be extra energetic?
What if it’s an entire failure and I nonetheless don’t change my habits?
Is it finest to simply get a cat?
I don’t assume I’d have the endurance for a pet, however a small grownup canine is likely to be good.
I’d admire your recommendation.
– In Want of a Pet
Pricey In Want: You already know the enjoyment of getting a cat companion, and so let’s discuss canines.
Your causes for wanting one (companionship, being compelled to go exterior) are reputable, and are the identical causes many individuals select canines.
Nevertheless, since you lack expertise I might warning you to decide on extraordinarily fastidiously. Does your house constructing permit canines? How simple would it not be so that you can take the canine exterior three or 4 occasions a day, through stairs or an elevator?
Whether or not you go together with a cat or a canine, I urge you to search for a small, quiet, calm older animal. Work carefully along with your native shelter and take plenty of time to seek out one of the best match for you.
My native shelter understands that adoptions don’t all the time work out, and insists that any animal adopted from them might be returned to them, no questions requested.
Pricey Amy: “Perplexed” puzzled why her widowed pal continued to ship vacation playing cards that includes pictures of her together with her husband, who has been deceased for a number of years.
Nobody who has misplaced a loving partner would ever marvel about this alternative. I appreciated that you simply steered that these pictures ought to be seen as a celebration, quite than as some morbid refusal to maneuver on.
– Wistful Widow
Pricey Wistful: I’ve heard from many surviving spouses who agree.
(You’ll be able to e-mail Amy Dickinson at [email protected] or ship a letter to Ask Amy, P.O. Field 194, Freeville, NY 13068. You may also observe her on Twitter @askingamy or Facebook.)
